You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth. But I tell you … if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. (Matthew 38-45)

By Sister Mary Jane Wallace, OSB

Many are now making plans to get together with family over the coming holidays. For some, those plans are filled with dread. Old grievances can undermine the most joyous time.

So, I’m going to give you some advice: Don’t hit back!

Never mind the old adage, An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.

If someone strikes you, stand there and take it.

If someone drags you into court and sues the shirt off your back, gift wrap your best coat and make a present of it.

And if someone takes unfair advantage of you, use the occasion to practice the servant life.

Even with those you’re related to.

No more tit-to-tat stuff. Live generously.

I’m telling you to love your enemies, whoever they are (including, sometimes, yourself).

Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst.

When someone gives you a hard time, respond with prayer.  This is what God does.

God gives the best of the best to everyone, period. The sun to warm us. The rain to nourish us. The bounty to satisfy every need.

In other words, live as you were created to live: generously and graciously. The way God lives toward you.

And have a nice holiday.